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By Caitie Leibman, Director of Communications
It’s said that comparison is the thief of joy. The grass is always greener, the Joneses are doing better, and no one else seems to have blemishes in their highlight reel.
This might feel like a modern problem, with how easy it is to fall into a cycle of “compare and despair” in this age of social media. But comparing ourselves to others is a very human tendency. Any strong group may feature some healthy competitiveness, for example.
But comparison becomes a problem when we forget to add some context back in. On LinkedIn, for example, we aren’t just seeing what our peers are up to on an average Tuesday: we’re also being fed content from the champions of every industry, as they chalk up lifetime achievements in real time!
What’s the antidote to the cycle of compare and despair? I sometimes daydream about deleting all my accounts, finding a nice quiet cave to hide in for a few months. (It’s not gonna happen, and it wouldn’t help anyway.)
Instead, we can just keep at it. That is, our version of “it.” Our work, our mission, bringing our attention back to whatever is happening in our lane. And research backs this approach.
“Keep your eyes on your own work,” psychologist Susan David reminds us in her book Emotional Agility. Maybe we heard this line a time or two in our school days, when teachers were on the lookout for cheating. While life is not a test, and there are no grades, this mantra might still do us some good.
Keeping our eyes on our own work might mean keeping ourselves at the center of our choices. When people give advice, it’s often in the form of, “Well, if I were you…” But they’re not you! You don’t need to know what others would do. They’re not in your shoes. You’re trying to find a way to figure out what you might do.
Comparison can spread doubt and add unhelpful pressure. We’re not trying to become that shiny person we saw on LinkedIn or even to become the friend with advice who is just trying to be helpful. That approach would be miserable. Susan David says this would lead us to become a “striving, lesser version of someone else.”
Instead, we can lean in to becoming even more of ourselves. This journey is not a race you can lose—because it’s not a race. Just keep your eyes on your own work. We’ll try to do the same.
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Each season of life brings different challenges—and makes different demands of us. Still, we don’t fight change. What does this season of life have to offer?
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Won’t you join me? I’m getting in the spirit! A little personal reflection for this fine holiday week.
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Our brains are so good at getting used to things that they will keep chasing new pleasures, new experiences, and the next thing to bring us a boost. But research shows there’s more bang for our buck by treating ourselves more frequently, in smaller doses—and our wallets might thank us.
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What was your favorite part about the Olympics? Was it a specific event that caught your eye, a striking outfit? For us, it’s hard not to be blown away by the perfection among those gymnasts.
Watching the events, we may forget how much time and effort these athletes put into their trades. We only see the polished, precise versions of the routines, or the absolute fastest times or highest heights!
We aren’t there to watch them struggle on their way to perfection. We don’t see how many hours the athletes trained, the things they had to sacrifice. Sometimes it’s good to remind ourselves that we aren’t going to get it right the first time. We are going to fall down; it’s just a part of life.
The thing that sets us apart, though? What we do after we fail.
Olympic athletes don’t throw in the towel because they had a couple bad days at practice… and we shouldn’t either. We get back out there and try again!
Maybe some of us are not happy with the amount of money we have saved so far for retirement. Instead of giving up on the idea of saving all together, we can formulate a new plan. We can analyze the budget, start reallocating cash, take advantage of IRA contributions. We can take the time to invest in ourselves and our futures.
Maybe some of us have little ones at home and are starting to think about saving for their college education. We don’t have to save as much as we can, as fast as we can. There are investment options to help you contribute at your own pace, while putting the money to work to take advantage of that potential growth.
While the Olympics is a competition, saving for retirement or a life-changing event is not. We are all on different journeys, with different resources, at different points in our lives. There is not one perfect plan for all investors.
One thing we can learn from the Olympic gymnasts is their power of flexibility. (While of course they are physically flexible, we are talking about their mental flexibility.) If their practice or routine isn’t working for them any longer, they will change it. We can do the same thing with our financial plan!
Setbacks in life are part of the journey. If we gave up when the going gets tough, we wouldn’t get to enjoy the fruits of our labors. We won’t sell out when the market is low, just like we won’t sell ourselves short when we don’t stick the landing every time.
We keep our eyes on the prize and keep moving forward.
If you are going through something right now and you didn’t get it right the first time, that’s okay. You can always try again next time. We aim for progress, not perfection. Progress—that’s going for the gold.
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We have noticed that the rules about IRA account withdrawals can cause some confusion, particularly among those who are getting close to the “Required Minimum Distribution” age.
Here, we’d like to cover what the basics might mean for most people, though it is not intended to be advice or a recommendation for your specific situation.
For traditional or rollover IRA account owners, withdrawals after age 59½ are free of penalty, but income taxes must be paid on the amounts withdrawn. One may withdraw money or not, in accordance with their needs and plans.
But beginning at age 73, the rules change.
For each year beginning with the year you turn 73, a “Required Minimum Distribution” (RMD) must be withdrawn:
The way the numbers work, the RMD starts out at a little under 4% of the account balance at age 73. Then, the RMD rises gradually each year. The RMD gets to a little over 5% at age 80 and closer to 10% by age 92. The withdrawals will be taxable—that is the whole object of the exercise, from the IRS’s perspective.
Even with those requirements, IRA accounts may still have significant balances until advanced ages.
Here are just a few fine points:
For more information, the IRS explains more details about RMDs online, available here. Please also keep in mind that different rules apply to inherited IRAs, Roth IRAs, and certain other situations, so do seek specific advice for your situation as necessary.
As for our role, our object for each client is to help have your money do what you need it to do.
So the question of how you should manage your accounts and your withdrawal strategy is best answered in a one-on-one discussion. If you would like our help talking through your situation, please call or email us. Happy to help.
This information is not intended to be a substitute for specific individualized tax advice. We suggest that you discuss your specific tax issues with a qualified tax advisor.
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Why do we own the orchard? It’s a long-term endeavor, our favorite metaphor for retirement planning. We plant and tend the trees in our working years, but in our retirement years, we live on the fruit crop! It’s about the balances, until it’s not. Then it’s about what they produce. 🙏
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Money you accumulate can work like an orchard, and the income—the fruit crop—helps run retirement life. Some in the industry would call clients taking out their own money “attrition.” Attrition, per the dictionary: “loss or destruction, corrosion, waste.” But to us, it’s simply investing wisely, spending well. Attrition, shmattrition.
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Did you know that the main ingredient to the magic pie is stock ownership? Common stock is more than just a transaction on the computer—it’s an investment, a share of an enterprise that’s out there in the world, trying to do something. Best part about a magic pie? There is plenty to go around.
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